“Once upon a time there was a young and beautiful lady and then a lot of things happened in her life which ultimately led to her meeting a handsome prince and living happily ever after.” All of us have heard of or read stories like this. Growing up, they were what all of us wanted, a happily ever after. But recently I realised that ‘happily ever afters’ are so much beyond meeting the ‘right’ or ‘perfect’ soulmate. So then what is a ‘happily ever after?’
Every day, in every milestone of our lives we meet so many people. Some we strike friendships with, some we don’t really click, some we don’t like and some who we don’t we remember. The ones who do stick around though are the ones we all want to hold on to forever. We want to make it last, we want things to stay the same. It’s a nice and ambitious plan, only problem being things won’t stay the same because with time everyone changes. And not in any negative sense. People grow, they learn, they experience and everyone changes in big and small ways. If two people can’t change together, no matter how differently they both change and can’t embrace the changes that take place, those ‘forevers’ are unlikely to last. How many times have we thought of someone as a forever and watched it disappear as we have both grown up. And how many more times have we been in a relation which we thought was our ‘happily ever after’ and watched that disappear?
So, I decided to change my take on my happily ever after, look at it from a different side, give it some perspective. Moments are fleeting, they come and go before we even realise. I think it is important to catch on to as many moments as we can because each moment is a happily ever after. It is a happily ever after for that second and that memory it leaves is the happily ever after for a lifetime. Who said life needs one happily ever after? It could be made up of multiple and each with different people. From you parents, to your friends, from strangers you meet and laugh with once to every time you spend a happy moment with yourself. Everyone of those feelings is a happily ever after. Hold on to them, but don’t expect them to happen forever. For as you grow and build in life, you will realise every moment that you had and you will have can all build into the perfect idea of a happily ever after, not because there would be no sad moments but anyway, without these sad moments how would we appreciate our happy ones? Everyone has a happily ever after, be it with people you met and then forgotten or be it people with whom you have made lasting relations. Happily ever afters don’t have to be forever, they can simple be each individual moment, each one a little comforting ever after.